Since my last Q&A I have had a lot of questions that I look at and say “Wow that’s something. ”. I mean questions that are personal, and stuff I wouldn’t usually just address. BUT I decided I would simply blur names and answer questions the best I can. I also added some questions I didn’t answer in my last Q&A
( I changed the names to "ANON" for all the people who asked not to be named )
"What is one thing nobody knows about you?" - Kelly M.
"How do you deal with anxiety... I can't control it." -Anon
I did a post on this! I have another one coming!
"Who was your first crush/ love?" - Anon
My first real crush not puppy love was a guy back in Park Ridge who I went to school with. (lol I am not naming him) My first love, I think he knows who he is. (my last relationship)
"How do you feel about your Park Ridge friends compared to Dallas friends?" - Anon
I don't feel a certain way? Am I supposed to?
"Do you miss Park Ridge?" -Marvin L.
I would say I miss certain things. I miss certain people and memories. I don't think I would move back though. (to Park Ridge Specifically)
"Why did you gain weight back?" - Giovanna O.
I gained some weight back because I became obsessed with being healthy and fit and it was bad. I am way better now and so happy with my body.
"Do you drink?" - Anon
No, I don't even have time to.
"What are your turn on and turn off's?" - Anon
Turn on's: intelligence, having a sense of humor, likes sports.
Turn off's: cocky, acts different around other people, a lier.
"What do you hate about yourself?" - Olivia K.
I don't hate anything really, but if I could change anything it would probably be my nose?
"If you only had one more day to live, what would you do? - Anon
I would spend time with my family and write letters to everyone I wasn't able to see.
"Worst gift you've gotten? Should I feel bad about re gifting?"- Mamablogtastic.com
I think the worst gift I gotten was this ugly shirt from a family friend. The shirt looked just like the "pirate shirt" from Seinfeld. Don't feel bad. One persons trash is another treasure.
"Whats the deal with your period, rumor is you don't have one?" -Anon
LOL. How is this even a rumor? I take birth control because of how severe my cramps are. Long story short I am anemic and getting my abnormal period doesn't help. I do have one, but it isn't normal. This question has me dead.
"One night you could live over?"- Kelly M.
There is so many, but I think my quince. There is so many things I would have wanted to do. It was such a hectic day and I wish I would've enjoyed it more.
"What is a lesson you learned too late?" - Dani S.
People out grow each other. You either grow together or drift apart. You can't control everything.
"What did you learn from your last relationship?" - Jenni F.
I learned how to be patient. I learned that we all have different hearts. I learned that you live and you learn.
"Is there anyone you would do anything for?" -Anon
My younger brother Sam. The people I love.
One Last Thing: Don't be shy to ask questions!
Being a blogger, I get a lot of questions. I also have people who feel they know who I am by what I post. Which is not true. I put out work that I love. I’m also not perfect and don’t mind having flaws. You live and you learn. For todays post I wanted to address somethings I have been asked about and assumptions.
I am not perfect. I get emails constantly about how I stay so happy, motivated, and productive. The truth is we all have days where we stay in bed all day or arejust in a funk. Just because I don’t write a post about my day where I slept 80% of the day doesn’t mean I don’t have those days.
Blogging doesn’t run my life. One question that I saw a lot was about how I create content if I’m not doing anything. I create the content I enjoy. What I like to read and what my readers are interested in. I don’t plan my days around my blog.
I am an entrepreneur. I’ve always known that owning a business is something that I wanted to do. Even studying law, I see business in everything. I have 3 companies I started that I absolutely love.
Education was so important to me growing up. At first it was forced, but as I grew I learned to value my education. Not everyone has the opportunity to sit in a classroom.
I am proud of my heritage. I love my heritage and culture. I learned to embrace who I am as I grew.As a Hispanic who doesn’t exactly look Hispanic it can be double sided. For as long as I can remember people identified my pale skin and features for a Europen. I had to learn that I don’t have to look a certain way to be able to embrace my culture.
“You only see what a person shows you.”
I like to have fun. A big misconception about me is that I am all work no play. I think we all have different ways of having fun. For me a weekend trip, me day, or spending time with people I love are things that I find fun. I don’t mind a party, but I hate the assumption that because I’m a college student I should be a partier.
I don’t settle.Working in the journalist field, especially when you cover sports can be difficult. Its a higher male to female ratio. Its competitive and I refuse to be seen like an underdog because I am a woman.
I am a feminist. I believe women deserve all the rights men have. I have seen unequal pay first hand and I would like to see the wage gap end in my lifetime.
One Last Thing: What I blog, is only one part of my life.
This year has been such a blessing in disguise. 2017 was probably one of the hardest years I’ve ever endured. There was a lot going on, but this year (so far) has been great. Even in bad times I’ve learned to count my blessings and be thankful for the things I do accomplish. I believe last year I pushed myself to extremes and I did some damage physical and emotionally. Every year I usually write a long list of crazy things I will do that year. In which only 10-15 of the 100+ actually happen. So this year I decided I am going to make a realistic list. I will have 15 things I want to accomplish and jumping out of a plane is a no this year too! lol. Anyways here is my realistic bucket list for 2018.
One Last Thing: "If it doesn't challenge you, it won't change you."
2017 was a rough year for me. Maybe for everyone. I had a hard time focusing on what made me happy and overcoming negative thoughts. Something that helped me remind myself was write what made me happy or at least made me smile each month. I thought I would share my list for January. Enjoy (:
Why I started?
At 14 I started my blog post a bad knee injury. I had to spend my afternoons at physical therapy. One of my therapists, " Lori " encouraged me to look at her daughter's blog, in hopes of encouraging me. At the time seeing a fairly young blogger was so exciting. I can't remember the name of her blog now as it has been a couple years, but it made me really want to do it for myself. I took on Weebly as a trial and I loved it. After a couple years off and on I have truly invested myself in blogging full time. I have always loved writing so having my own blog has been amazing.
How I started?
I started off with Weebly, as I upgraded my account and began monetizing it. Using Weebly, and Wix are easy to use for beginners. Other great sites are square space and blue host/wordpress.org.
What I've learned?
I've learned so much from blogging. Here are my top 5 lessons.
As I browsed my Netflix a couple days ago I realized there are so many good shows, but ehh I wasn't feeling it. I'm the kind of person that if I watch the first episode and its not good I'am out. (sorry) I mean if you can't hold my attention in the pilot episode theres not way I am watching the 12 seasons. I decided to create a list of my top 10 favorite Netflix shows, that I binge watched. Well here it is... (In no particular order)
Bones was the first show I actually watched all the way through.Honestly I don’t know how I found it or why, but I enjoy the combination of comedy and mystery.
A classic my go to Sunday nighg TV show. I can rewatch this show season after season.
#4 Criminal Minds
As a criminal justice/ pre law major I love watching crime shows and comparing them. I love criminal mind especially because of the twists and turns it gives you and some reality.
#5 Orange is the new Black
I’m not going to lie, but I wasnt so sure about this show at first. After really getting into it and seeing some tough reality, I higly enjoyed it.
#6 Black Mirror
Okay, this show is great but I dont think I can watch too many episodes at a time. It really makes you think. Messes with your mind.
#7 Law & Order SVU
This show is the first crime related show I watched. It has been my favorite ever since.
#8 Thats 70's Show
Growing up if I stayed up late enough "Thats 70's Show" would be playing. I remember loving the theme song and not really understanding the show. Now that I am older I love to rewatch these episodes.
#9 Gossip Girl
You know being 13 and watching gosspi girl it was like amazing. I thought being a teen would be just like that. lol not even close. Still a great show.
#10 Jane the Virgin
My tuesday night me time show, that always makes me laugh.
#11 Crazy EXgirlfriend
Charming, funny, and in some way relatable.
#12 One Day at A Time
Okay so I have to say I love this show so much. As a Latina seeing characters go through the same things a lot of us go through is really cool. Being able to relate, cry, and laugh in one episode is the reason I put it on this list. Season 2 is streaming on Netflix now!
One Last Thing: Movie version of this post coming soon.
I'm not going to lie. I have been working on this book since I found out I was moving to Dallas. It's my biggest kept secret. I have pushed it away a million and one times, but hearing the feedback I got it changed everything. It has changed a lot since I first wrote it. Its been through editors after editors. Its finally 2018. One of the most exciting things coming this year is this book. I honestly believe everything comes with time. For a long time I was afraid to share this with my publisher in fear of it not being the right type of book. But is there even a right type of book? I guess we will have to find out. Since I mentioned the book in my Q&A I have gotten WAY more questions about it.
It will be released in May 2018. Paperback, hardcopy, and Ebook. So why May? I decided on May because that is the month my hometown friends cross the stage for their graduation. This book is fairly based on them and how they changed my life. Not all of them know yet...
I was given the heads up to be able to share two small pieces of the book and some reviews I've had so far. So here it is.
The Wooden Bench
"Everleigh! You're late again!" I pulled on my worn out charcoal leggings and my favorite school crewneck. Throwing my tight brown curls into a ponytail when I realized that Sam was watching me stumble around the house in search of my pink Maybelline mascara tube. I stopped waiting for him to speak, tilting my head.
"Evie, where do people go when they die?"
I looked at the clock on the oven. 7:45. I'm so late. Mom honked waiting outside. Pulling my backpack over my shoulder, tripping over my missing black high top converse.
"Sam, can we talk about this later? I'm really late."
"Okay, Evie." His eyes hit the floor as I kissed his forehead and ran out the door.
When I got home the house was empty. Not a sound but the tick of the annoying vintage looking clock hanging in the kitchen. I sat down on our brand new black leather couch that my dad admired more than sat on. I scanned my algebra homework for the night. My brain fuzzled over into daydream land. *BUzzzz*
Vivian: Did you read the note?? Where are you?
Ugh, the note. I forgot. Vivian and her notes. I dug into my backpack for a pale peach notebook paper lined with Vivian's heart sketches.
It had "Evie, meet me at Frosty at 6. Maeve's coming. Don't be late." in Vivians perfectly right slanted hand writing.
2 blocks wasn’t a far walk so I texted Vivian, “coming”. I wrote, “ill be back @ frostys” on the fridge whiteboard. I scribbled my name at the bottom and ran off. When I got there Vivian and Maeve and sat pressed against the brick wall sitting on those obnoxious red benches.
"Evie you seriously couldn’t be later!" Vivian hissed sarcastically as she pushed a clear plastic cup of chocolate ice cream towards me. I smiled, she knew me well.
"Thanks Viv...so what's this about?" I said as I spun my spoon around my cup.
" Oh, nothing... we just have catching up to do."
Maeve looked at me and shrugged. Vivian tossed her blonde locks behind her ears placing her hands on her face. Silence filled the crisp fall air. Its beginning to get colder. The winds were thinning and the sun was setting behind the train tracks. I knew by the look in their glistening eyes, they knew..."
" Pure bliss... captures the essence of friendship, love, and todays youth. Brilliant. Show stopper for all ages." -Abigail Cruz (HONEST)
"Tear worthy, heart wrenching. The Wooden Bench, takes you into the world of Everleigh Lighting in the most candid way possible." -Henry Cox (MODERN WRITING)
One Last Thing: I want to thank everyone who believed in the book and those who inspired my every page.
My time working with basketball players, journalists, photographers, media, coaches and scouts was spectacular. I learned so much. From small random details to major news. Today I will being giving you all my list of top things I learned about the NBA/ its players and journalism. SOME ARE SUPER RANDOM SO BEWARE.
As a journalist that got to get up close and personal, I experienced a lot. There's a lot the TV doesn't show. We rave about these players and plaster them all over social media. First hand I saw how some journalists aren't in it for the proper reasons. Yeah, money is great, but they tend to forget that these players have families and normal lives aside from the training and games. I learned how some writers will go out of their ways to make someone look bad. The fact of the matter is the higher ratings the more money.
Another huge lesson I learned was to not focus on what's being put out. Write what you want to write. I wrote an article about an "underdog rookie" and it received 4x the recognition than a fellow writers article on LeBron James. It's all about being ahead of the game. Attracting a crowd with what you write and NO you don't have to bash a player to get an incredible piece written.
Overall I learned these players we fangirl over are simple people. They are kind, funny, creative, and ridiculously talented players. These were just some random facts I learned while being an NBA journalist, I hope you enjoyed my combination of random facts and what I learned as a journalist.
If you want to hear about Windy City Tryout and My coverage on the 2018-2019 draft stay tuned.
One Last Thing: Fun fact about me is that my pen name is actually Noel....
A normal day for me is usually a blur. I work 4/5 days a week, study, and blog. It can be tough at times, but I feel so content with my schedule. I got a lot of requests to do a " What I eat in a day" and "Day in the Life". I decided I would do them both separately so I can go into depth with what I eat. This post is just a run through of a day where I am NOT working. Having a routine on work days is not very easy so I figured I would tell you guys about what my days off look like.
7:00am Wake Up & Refresh:
On days where I am not extremely exhausted, I wake up around 6:15. BUT I end up staying in bed until 7ihs. I start the day off by doing my skincare routine. Since it is pretty early I start the day with a face-mask as I catch up on emails.
7:45 am Breakfast & Journalling:
Post face-mask, I make breakfast. For those who don't know I have been doing a"Vegan for a Month" challenge. I try to wake up earlier so I have time to make breakfast and meal prep. During this time I spend time reading or writing in my agenda/journal.
Current Favorite Morning Read: Make the Most of You- Patrick Lindsay
8:15 am Getting Ready & Clean up:
Around this time I make my bed, tidy up if I need to, and get changed. If I don't get changed I will definitely go back to bed. (oops) I will do my makeup at this time and sip on my coffee until I am done. Some days I will take longer than needed, just to get away from starting the day.
9:00am-12pm: Study Time & Organization:
This time is one of the essential times for me. I sit down, catch up on classes, get my blog schedule set, and work on my business objectives. If I don't have this time I will get behind in my studies and that's a big NO-NO.
12pm-3pm: Errands & Lunch:
On a day off at this time, I tend to run errands. Anything I need to do outside of my house I do at this time. Printing, grocery shopping, and pickups. I get it done. Around 2 pm is when I grab a bite. NO MATTER WHAT. I meal prep so I know if I won't be home I will have something to take on the go with me. As someone who spends a lot of their day on a computer I do my best to get outdoors and get active during this time.
After errands, I relax at home, have my time. If I have any phone calls I will take care of that at this time.
5pm-7pm: Blogging/OLT/ Marketing:
Blog time for me consists of writing, a lot of writing. I use this time to prepare any blog posts that need to go up, write blog posts, work on editing. Anything that has to do with my blog, my companies, networking, collabs and marketing for One Love One Nation. If I have any meetings out of house, they usually will be around 5/6:30 pm.
7 pm Dinner:
Around 7 pm I begin cooking for dinner. Get my jam out at this time. If I for sure know I won't be able to get a workout in I use my " BELUS RESISTANCE BANDS" while I cook. I usually sit down to actually eat around 7:45.
8:30 pm School/Work out & Wind down:
After dinner, I go straight into my night routine. On days where I am behind I have some extra study time and watch any lectures I haven't seen. If I am not behind I hit the gym for an hour or do a workout at home.
After winding down, I will shower, read, catch up on social media, etc. Ending the night with my night skincare routine. Being someone who has trouble falling asleep I end up sleeping around 12/1 am. This post was just an overview of what my day looks like if I am off and don't have any other obligations. I know it looks all perfect and organized. (its not) In reality we all have days where things just don't go to plan. I am greatful to have the opportunities I do. Being a student and blogger, its hard to stay on track. I am glad I have found ways to manage time and stay organized. Thank you so much for reading. Don't forget to email me back with feedback or suggestions.
One Last Thing: Live every day like it will be the last and never fear to take a risk. You may not be here tomorrow.
This last month has been a crazy successful month filled with many up and a few downs. My email has blown up with questions after my “A letter to my High School self”, and my “What you don’t know about me” posts. So many questions I decided to put the most asked questions together and here it is!
One Last Thing: Dont be afraid to email me any questions you have I love talking to my readers.